Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself: who you are, how you act, how you look, etc.  If a person does not think very highly of himself and has little self-respect, he has low self-esteem. The concept of self-esteem is important for the well-being of your child for happiness in life.   Although self-esteem can vary at different times, the pattern usually goes toward a healthy or unhealthy view of self. The foundation of children’s self-esteem begins in childhood. A child who possesses high self esteem will acquire a healthy attitude towards life.  This rooted foundation of confidence will enable them to face life’s challenges and will act as an impetus to future success.

Ways to build your child’s self-esteem:

Play with your child!  Parents need play as much as children
As a busy parent, it might be hard to find time to play with your child. However, the time you spend playing with your children is very important and meaningful. By playing with your child, you get to know his personality and capabilities.  An activity that may seem meaningless to you means a lot to your child. Playtime puts us on our child’s level, helping parents get into the mind of their child. Take time to enjoy playing with your child.  By finding time to give your child your undivided attention, we send children the message they are valuable. Children feel loved when we spend quality time with them.
Give unconditional love and acceptance
Make sure your child knows that you love her no matter what she does.  Accept your child for who she is, no matter what her strengths or weaknesses are. When you do have to correct your child, make sure he knows it is his behavior — not him — that’s wrong.  For instance, instead of saying, “You’re a naughty boy! Why are you so naughty?” say, “Please don’t hit your sister; hitting is not nice.”


Pay attention to and make eye-contact with your child
Focusing on your child and listening to what she says shows her that what she says is valuable.   Turn off the T.V and other distractions and really pay attention to your child.  Always look at your child in the eyes when talking with them. This shows that you care about what she is saying and that you are fully engaged in the conversation.

Let mistakes happen
Mistakes are a natural part of life.So if your child breaks something by accident, instead of scolding your child, encourage him to think about what he might do differently next time.  Your child will understand and learn from his mistakes and realize that it is fine to make mistakes. Let your child know that effort is the most important.

Celebrate what is unique about your child
Maybe your child has some unique interests or hobbies.  Let him know it is ok to be different and that he does not have to copy what everyone around him is doing.   Every child has a unique way of feeling and thinking. Some children are shy, while others are outgoing.  Some are extremely boisterous, why others are calm. As a parent, you can celebrate what makes your child unique.